When you love two characters but they get paired together and their relationship just seems bland but the more you think about it, the more it seems creepy and toxic, and you want them both to just stop except there’s no hope of that because they die together married without pink hair
Fuck you, Rowling what message were you even trying to convey with them? “When you enter a relationship, and your partner seems uncomfortable with the situation and questions frequently whether or not you’ll be safe, physically and mentally, in this relationship, THE ANSWER IS TO GIVE UP WHAT MAKES YOU UNIQUE AND ALSO YOUR FIGHTING SPIRIT SO THAT YOU CAN MOTHER HIS CHILD EVEN THOUGH HE HAS REPEATEDLY SAID HE’S AFRAID OF HAVING KIDS FOR THEIR OWN GENETIC SAFETY.”
Yes, what a lovely message to use two of your strongest, smartest, and most potentially queer characters to convey through their miserable, dissatisfying heterosexual relationship that essentially involves everything that they previously dreaded occuring in their lives actually happening to them and being shown as a good thing by the narrative.
#I’m sorry the more I think about Remus and Tonks’ relationship #the sadder and more angry it makes me #like if it happened in real life to someone good for them I wouldnt critique #but the fact that it’s entirely deliberately set up by an author who made them express all the things THEY WOULD NOT LIKE #and then made them SUDDENLY WANT THOSE THINGS WITHOUT ANY CHARACTER DEVELOPMENT LEADING TO THESE CHANGES IN DESIRES #especially an author who is so fucking proud of her own ‘queer representation’ which is literally only existant through omission and nuance #who then takes these two one of whom is pretty much representative of an HIV/AIDS patient in the 80s-90s and his whole narrative is affected #and the other is comprised of lesbian stereotypes which are cleverly reversed and played with #and is full of genderqueer/intersex potential due to her metamorphmagi powers #and the fact that she refuses to go by her feminine given name #FOR CHRISTS SAKES ROWLING
I agree with this completely and I have nothing more to add to this its perfect
On that note can I say that I hate how she chose for Ron and Hermione to be together and have kids they are so different! They want and deserve different things! Hermione is clever and adventurous and a leader and even in the last scene of the books she reads like all that has been snuffed out of her. plus Ron could NEVER appreciate her. like, why would Hermione settle for so much less?! Never made sense.